Monday, June 25, 2012

Things Other People Don’t Notice


South American prostitutes spend an enormous amount of time talking on the phone, with great animation.. My experience of South American prostitutes is rather limited, but they are frequently gathered outside 'bars', imnvariably gesticulating pointless at the person on the other end of the phone they have stuck to their ear. I did know a Venezuelan girl socially at one point, and she was exactly the same when she was with a customer. When she was just at a party with her boyfriend she didn't behave that way.

The first team to miss a penalty in the shoot-out goes on to win. This is unlikely to be a universal law, and it was easy to prove false, but as a tendency I believe it is real. Italy showed how it works last night. When Montolivo put it high, I knew we were in trouble. And so it turned out.

A bull that stops suddenly and quivers in the first stage of a bullfight will be brave and give good ‘juego’. It's a kind of convulsion that some bulls give when first confronted with a cape. It's not regarded as a good sign, but by the end it's been forgotten and no one bothers to correlate. Well I have done, over the years, and it is clearly a good sign. I can't recall a bull turning out bad when it's made that gesture.

The children of child psychologists/child psychiatrists/experts in children are invariably weird. For professional reasons I have known quite a lot of such people, and when I say they invariably have weird children, I meam I haven't come across an exception. I suspect that parenting is, in general, something best done naturally, by instinct. When you try to do it by the application of theories, based on unconfirmed and perhaps unconfirmable hypotheses, that were developed to deal with children with mental problems and in difficult circumstances, you create a problem that shouldn't have existed.


5 comments:

Brett Hetherington said...

I suspect you're probably completely right about children who have "kid expert" parents being weird, but why is "children being weird" a "problem?"

Isn't "children being average/mediocre/dull n' ordinary/lacking the confidence to be an individual" a much greater problem?

In my experience, the kids who prefer to blindly follow the bad behaviours of some peer leaders are a significant amount of the disruption to learning in schools, and most likely later on when they are adults in wider society they continue to follow the pack mentality.

CIngram said...

What I mean by weird isn't just being different, it's really the opposite of what you're saying. The children of such people seem very ill at ease in society, and unable or unwilling to express themselves freely. A consequence of this in children is they may never properly develop a full adult character.

The comment was rather frivolous, although it does reflect my experience, but I think there could actually be a problem with the way 'child trainers' work with children who are not patients.

The children you refer to, on the other hand, those who know how to be individuals, are the most fun to be around, the most fun to teach (it can be hard work, but it's more fun), and almost ceratinly the most fun to be. I wish I'd been one.

"Isn't "children being average/mediocre/dull n' ordinary/lacking the confidence to be an individual" a much greater problem?"

It's a big problem, undoubtedly, and one that the ruling ideologues are not trying very hard to solve.

Brett Hetherington said...

Yes, that particular species of weird: the wholly introspective, inexpressive, passive and stilted child - that is a sad thing to see. They are less impetuous, but equally less spontaneous of course. Dangerous to good education, they rarely if ever ask any questions.

We all know them as adults, but this could be because they are some way along the Aspergers spectrum and never quite worked out how to defeat that.

James Higham said...

Hmmm - I'll have to get out and meet more prostitutes to test that out.

CIngram said...

JH

l look forward to hearingthe results of your research :-)